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Lansing Funeral Home
Saturday January 15th, 2022

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Nancy H. Vallely

Nancy Helena Vallely, 81, of Ithaca, NY passed away on Saturday, January 8, 2022 at Cayuga Medical Center in Ithaca. Born in Elmira, NY on October 15, 1940, she was the daughter of the late Lester Dee and Marjorie Louise (McGill) McConnell.

Nancy spent much of her life in Hawaii and truly embraced the culture and Aloha Spirit. She earned her Bachelor’s Degree from the University of Hawaii and held many jobs in the human resources field during her time there. She was also a merchant marine and worked as a purser for American Hawaii Cruises and paddled canoe for the Lokahi Canoe Club. She was adventurous and loved trying new activities. In her later years, she moved to Ithaca to be closer to family and retired from Schuyler Hospital in Montour Falls, NY as their Human Resources Director. With many friends and family, Nancy's life was well lived.

Nancy is survived by her children, Mark Vallely (Jane Miller), Dan Vallely, and Mary Stanion (Paul); grandchildren, Rachel and Amber “AJ”; and several nieces and nephews. In addition to her parents, she was predeceased by her siblings, Jan McLaughlin, Jerry McConnell, and Jack McConnell.

A memorial service will be held at 1:00 p.m. on Saturday, January 15, 2022 at Lansing Funeral Home, 32 Auburn Road, Lansing, NY 14882. To share a memory or leave a message for the family, please visit www.lansingfuneralhome.com.

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Most of my memories of Aunt Nancy are visiting during our childhoods. The one that stands out the most is sitting in her kitchen while she made us all french toast. Hers was the best!! Her secret ingredients were vanilla and cinnamon. To this day I don't make it any other way. Thank you for such wonderful memories ❤ Love you all bunches ❤💕

Kim McConnell Jan 17 2022 8:00 AM

Mark, Danny, and Mary, our sincere thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Your mom was a wonderful woman and will be missed dearly. I was planning to attend the services today until I received my covid results. I am so disappointed but with you in spirit and hope to share stories of your mom in the future. We visited her several times both in Montour and there in Ithaca and enjoyed ourselves very much. Please reach out to me ( cousin Mary McConnell in Lockport,

Mary McConnell-Terranova Jan 15 2022 10:47 AM

So sorry about Nancy's death. St. John's remembers her fondly, and will keep her, and your family in our prayers.

Mtr. Megan Castellan, St. John's Episcopal Church Jan 12 2022 11:26 AM

Mark, so sorry to hear of the death of your Mom. My condolences to you and all your family. She and I share the same year of birth. Best love to you , suzanne

Suzanne Feehan Jan 11 2022 10:32 AM

Mary...Dan...and Mark....We are so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Our condolences to the family.

Kathy and John Wallace Jan 11 2022 7:31 AM