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Lansing Funeral Home
Thursday October 25th, 2018
5:00pm - 7:00pm

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Lauren Victoria Lilley

Lauren Victoria Lilley (Grover) of Lansing, NY, passed away on Sunday, October 21, 2018, at the age of 34 after a long battle with mental illness and addiction.  Lauren was fascinated by science, the human body and the mind and dreamed of someday becoming a psychiatrist or a funeral director.  After earning an Associate's degree from Tompkins Cortland Community College, Lauren worked as a registered nurse for many years.  She was beautiful, brilliant, funny, fiercely loyal, protective and deeply pensive.  She believed in loving people unconditionally and provided that love generously. Lauren was the very essence of unique and wholly unforgettable.

Lauren was the daughter of Bonnie Moffett and the late William Fletcher Grover.  Lauren is survived by three wonderful, smart and joyful children: Julian (16) with her first husband, Stephen VanBuren, and Phoenix (7) and Felix (5) with her second husband, Todd Lilley.  Her children meant everything to her and she parented with honesty and never ending adoration.

Lauren is also survived by her siblings, Miles Grover and Sarah Huff (Neal); her niece, Svetlana Grover; her grandparents, Gerald and Arlene Caward and William and Helenrae Grover; and many aunts, uncles, cousins and an enormous extended family who always rooted for her recovery.  She will be sorely missed and thought of often by all those who knew her.

Calling hours will be from 5:00 to 7:00 p.m. on Thursday, October 25, 2018, at Lansing Funeral Home, 32 Auburn Road, Lansing, NY 14882.

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We never met in person but I'll miss you a lot.

Ethan Nov 15 2018 12:00 AM

Good bye my dear friend. I hope you and your family find peace. I will always love and remember you as one of the greatest friends I have ever had. I am here if your family ever needs me or if there is anything I can do to to help ease their pain. I will never forget you.

Jeremy Estelle Oct 27 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Lauren Lilley

Jeremy Estelle Oct 27 2018 12:00 AM

My sincere condolences to Lauren's family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, especially for Phoenix and Felix. God bless.

Linda Parker Spas Oct 25 2018 12:00 AM

I had the privilege of working with Lauren while she attended the Nursing Program. She excelled at every class and although that was awesome, it wasnt the most important thing to Laurern. Her depth and seriousnes made each of her smiles shine like the sun after a storm.

Alexis Dengel Oct 25 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Lauren Lilley

Chris Jones Oct 24 2018 12:00 AM

When I first met Lauren, she was 16 and already a bright shining star. We had amazing conversations and her appreciation for the vastness of life was immense. It's my hope that her energy and spirit will live on within all of you. Wishing you peace and comfort in the warmth of your memories...

Paul Fairbanks Oct 24 2018 12:00 AM

I met Lauren through a dear friend. Although we didn't always see eye to eye, she cared deeply about me and helped me through a difficult time. I am deeply saddened by her passing.

Brooke Oct 24 2018 12:00 AM

Thank you. Theere's definitely a hole where she used to fit in.

Bonnie Moffett Oct 23 2018 12:00 AM

My Condolences to her children , and family. She was a good soul, and she will be missed. I will never forget her she will always be in my heart...

Steve Samson Oct 23 2018 12:00 AM

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