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Hollybrook Country Club
Saturday October 27th, 2018

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Barbara S. D'Alleva

Barbara S. D’Alleva of Spencer, New York, peacefully passed on October 10, 2018, at Schuyler Hospital in Montour Falls, NY.

Born August 8, 1949, to George and Maria (Mermelstein) Bonto, Barbara, is survived and was surrounded  by her loving husband of thirty-nine years, Nicholas D’Alleva, her two children Nakiya D’Alleva (Seth Rumsey) and Kai Antonio (Heather Noel North) D’Alleva, her beloved grandchildren Nicholas Daniel and Gillian Michelle D’Alleva, and special family friends Jerry and Patricia Carr. Both only children, Barbara and husband Nicholas, established many close relationships with beautiful people who took on roles as “brothers” and “sisters” along the way.

An extremely bright and educated women, Barbara loved history and was passionate about politics. Barbara thoroughly enjoyed and found most contentment in the simple pleasures of life- her family and friends, a good conversation, music, beautiful gardens, a great television show, and most recently found her love for dogs. 

Barbara worked for many years in medical records at a busy Manhattan Hospital, and later as an administrative support specialist at Ithaca High School. She thrived on human connection, and demonstrated a unique and beautiful ability to create and sustain meaningful, deep relationships full of empathy, love and laughter. A permanent touch will be left on the hearts of all those lucky enough to know and love her.

Barbara is predeceased by parents George and Maria (Mermelstein) Bonto and her father and mother-in-law Salvatore and Olivia (Faligario) D’Alleva, whom she enjoyed and had a very special bond with.

A special thank you and sincere gratitude to all of the wonderful care providers at Schuyler Hospital for caring for our mother, like family, with utmost respect and dignity. Your steadfast efforts and thorough, gentle care and profound kindness will never be forgotten and forever appreciated.

A celebration of Barbara’s life will take place on Saturday, October 27, 2018, at Hollybrook Country Club, 29 Fisher Settlement Road, Spencer, NY 14883.  Memorial sentiments will start promptly at 3:00 p.m. followed by a casual reception.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Schuyler Hospital, 220 Steuben Street, Montour Falls, NY 14865.

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Our sincerest sympathies. Our family has so many positive memories of Barb. What a wonderful and caring person.

Zenon and Pat Wasyliw

Zenon Wasyliw Oct 17 2018 12:00 AM

I was a Social Studies Teacher at Ithaca High School when Barb served as the Department Secretary. She was loving, kind, and helpful. She offered great assistance to me in the weeks after I had ruptured a disk in my back and was awaiting surgery. I have always remembered her for that. She was a very bright light in our department. My condolences to Nick and to Barbs family and friends.

Stacey K. Payette Oct 15 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Barbara D'Alleva

Kim Fey Oct 15 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Barbara D'Alleva

Gina Currie Oct 12 2018 12:00 AM

Arne and I would like to send our condolences to your family. Barbara was a wonderful, positive friend to be around. We have been blessed to have known her.
Love and Peace to All,
Arne and Joyce Pasto

Arne and Joyce Pasto Oct 12 2018 12:00 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss!
Wanetta Satomaa

Wanetta Satomaa Oct 12 2018 12:00 AM

My family especially my sister Jo-Anne and I were friends with Barbara for our childhood years at 50 Davenport Avenue, New Rochelle, NY. Just like her story says, we bonded with Barbara in a special way and she, since she was an only child, bonded with our large family of mom, dad and five kids. I have since connected with Barbara and we have reminisced so fondly about how she used to help us decorate our Christmas tree and celebrated other holidays with us. We, on the other hand would hang out at her apartment and watch old movies, and Dick Clark's Beechnut hour. (It was so much quieter there.) We would take Barbara on some of our family jaunts to Jones Beach and Playland and even to our Grandma's house for visits. We went to Catholic School and she told me she used to study the Catechism with us. (I can't even imagine why but that is what she told me recently). We had such fun playing jacks in the hallway, hopscotch and dolls outside. My sister even went on a trip to Canada with Barbara and her family. i remember smelling Chicken paprika cooking on the stove and once a cow's tongue was boiling away ( I should never have asked Ha!!! )We left for Connecticut right before jr high and through the magic of Facebook happily connected up again. She and I filled each other in on our lives over the past probably 40+ years with a bunch of long emails. I am so sorry to hear of her passing. I am so sad tonight. She loved her family and spoke about you often so you know how loved you all were. So she is a large part of my days as a kid and my sister and I will never forget her. Godspeed old friend.

Patricia (Connelly) DeGemmis Oct 12 2018 12:00 AM